After a small Break

We took the summer off, but now she's back and dating again. I really do need to update this more regularly, Does anyone even read these though?

in the last two weeks she's met and made out with 3 new guys, in fact she's with #3 right now and the potential to go all the way is very high right now, She also was going to Meet someone tomorrow morning but sadly scheduling won't work. i have this new fascination with her being a huge slut, and she seems to enjoy acting the part, I'm not sure if she likes shocking me with how slutty she can be or if being a slut is just really fun for her.

Something i really want to do is to be out at a Bar and just give her to a random dude, like the guy on the other side of the bar staring and making eyes at her, i would love to walk up to him and ask "you Like Her?', "You want a BJ from her?" "buy me a drink" then have her take him out to the car for a quickie. I don't think in reality id be able to do this but id really like to and i think she secretly wants me to.

I often wonder whats MY limit? how much of a slut is too much? Another fantasy iv had is her in the center of a gang bang. fucking and sucking every guy in the room. a dozen 2 dozen? i leave this up to her. i think the ideal test would be one of these sex/swinger resorts. i would have to be totally at ease so should be able to let go and enjoy she always worries about me and i really just want her to let go and have some fun

Seducing an Old friend

Things have been progressing Much slower this time around, which i suppose is a good thing, past experiences have taught us that things can become overwhelming very easily.
She's met a few new guys, Slept with two so far, one did not work out and she will not be seeing him again, long story short he lied about his relationship status, his "ex" But not really, got suspicious and called my wife's phone wondering what was going on. My wife stance has always been honesty if your married and cheating its fine with her as long as she knows, she likes to be prepared for the potential suspicious wife/girlfriend. the second is promising they had a little lunch date to get to know each other then met once after that very briefly. And i believe they are meeting again with in the next few days.

The real excitement came a few nights ago, She has this Friend who she had asked if she could do him, after some talking about potential issues (him being a friend before hand at all) I agreed. a few months ago she had told him she wanted to suck him off, he was interested but wary being he knows me and nothing about our arrangement. She never did get the opportunity, the other night he stopped by the house to pick something up, (as usual I'm out of town). She had told him "You owe me a kiss for being an ass the other day" (there had been a misunderstanding between the 3 of us about meeting for drinks when i was in town) he leaned down and pecked her on the lips, "No, No , No that won't do" So he leaned down and really kissed her. They went to sit on the couch and she reaches over and starts stroking his cock through his pants, he laughs nervously and she says "Dude you owe me" She unbuttoned her shirt and got down between his legs, she started blowing on his cock through his pants until he unbuttoned them, She licked and sucked and teased for awhile, then handed him her phone took off her pants sat down and threw her legs across his lap, he fingered her for a bit then she said "Now you need to fuck me" he laughed nervously again, she told him i knew about it and that he had to take a few photos for me and fuck her. so he nervously took down his pants and crawled between her legs and Fucked My Hotwife! This was also her first Bareback which turns out to be way hotter than i expected. She was so hot after this wishing i was there to reclaim her. but i couldn't be there, she has another FB thats been dying to get at her lately and i told her to go ahead and set something up, She was gonna get fucked twice by two different guys under 2 hours, But i fucked up! i started feeling a little jealous about how she had seduced her friend, i tried to tell her how i was feeling but i did a lousy job of conveying those feelings, the whole thing was very hot but i got up in my own head and... i fucked up. it didn't turn into a fight but it took an emotional turn and she never did go to meet guy number two. on the bright side i feel like the emotional conversation was very beneficial to me any way. everything happens for a reason and that conversation needed to happen.

HOTWIFE 2.0

Iv said before, This Hotwife lifestyle is constantly changing and evolving. Originally we were both closely involved in choosing her dates, we ... actually, I had a list of rules and lines i didn't want crossed. Looking back it was most likely a strange level of denial, i didnt want to admit how much this was exciting me, i was afraid that by giving her too much freedom she'd end up replacing me, And i was ashamed to admit what i really wanted. so by setting these rules i had a level of control over how far anything went and i wouldn't have to show all my cards. I want her to be my Little Slut, i want her to Crave sex, to need sex, i would love to see her become a Nymphomaniac with little to no Restraint.

I may Be her Daddy, But i let my little slut run free for the most part, She is free to do whomever, whenever she wants as long as she tells me what she's up to. Just yesterday she was teasing one of her Boys through Chat and had gotten herself all worked up. She took video of herself taking care of it and asked if she should send it to some of her other boys. this usually creates a feeding frenzy of chat messages, What i didn't realize was she had sent it to one of our friends, She likes to tease him while we'r out for drinks and watch him squirm uncomfortably. I had an idea that she was interested in him on a sexual level but he was always so proper with her (he doesn't ... Didn't know about our Lifestyle)  That i assumed she probably would never pursue him. well the video was well received I'm sure his head was spinning and they plan on hooking up soon. 2 things really excited me about this particular exchange, 1st i know she was probably very hesitant and worried about my reaction seeing as he's a mutual friend, i am extremely impressed that she took the chance and let her slutty side show, i am also very glad that she's understanding my wishes and position so well, i know these types of requests are hard to accept and sometimes sound too good to be true, and most often we are hesitant to believe the validity of the request, so it really fills me with joy knowing she believes and trusts me enough to take me for my word. and 2nd she went for the friend, i can only imagine what her next brazen slutty move might be, any more friends in the list, what will she do to surprise me Next?

She is taking to being a Hotwife very well and seems to be enjoying herself immensely, Since we'v started back up she's only been able to sleep with one of the men from our previous go around she has however met 3 others one of which scored a hand job and a couple kisses in the parking lot. and one whom although they haven't fucked will probably end up being a regular boy toy. he's already proving to be a bit of a sub and i think she likes dominating him.

well until next time
drop me comment if you have any advice, questions, or requests

Hotwife messages

It's been awhile. We hit a bit of speed bump, we were going along very well, she had 3 or 4 regular lovers, I was enjoying it much more than I expected, I still don't understand why and would love to know this side of myself better. She gave me permission to play, and we quickly discovered she does not like sharing me as much as I like sharing her. 

We put a stop to everything, I think experiencing my side of things opened her eyes to the fears and anxiety that comes with sending your spouse off to Fuck another, but she didn't not get to experience the excitement and fun that can accompany giving your wife to another and watching her enjoy herself with another lover. 

It's almost a year later and I'm missing it. I've spent a lot of time thinking about this. I want to ask her to take a lover or lovers, but I need to reassure her that I don't need to play. I want her to know going into this it will be one sided. I enjoyed my Baby girl being a slut, I want her to explore her inner slut. I want her to impress me with how slutty she can be  and I already know she can be very very slutty. I've noticed most wife sharing seems to put the husband in a cuckold role. I'm not a cuckold, I just really like to see my wife in ecstasy. This scenario has the potential to work nicely as she has a desire to be dominated. As much as I've  tried I have not been a very effective Dom but i think in this role having some control over her extramarital activities may give me the dominant stance I need. I'm just not entirely sure if this is quite what she may have had in mind. 

Tips for picking up a HotWife!

So you saw an ad on Craigslist or Ashley Madison, and you want to meet her. 

Although I personally have never replied to either of these, iv read hundreds of replies from men wanting to meet up with my HotWife. These tips won't apply to all woman but I feel like this is a good general idea of how to succeed with an NSA hookup/one night stand/FWB 

1. Do not send a Cock picture (unless she asks for it.) In our case a cock pic gets you an immediate rejection, every other reply that comes back is a cock iv seen more cock in the last two weeks then I'd like to admit to. 

Do however send a face pic, if your uncomfortable sending a face pic right out of the gate send a full body (clothed) with your face obscured, then once your more comfortable send her your mug, most woman need to feel some level of attraction and this is definately true with my wife. 

2. Drop the machismo, she doesn't want to hear about how you'll "pound her real good", or how you'll "make her cum over and over" "I'll do you 10 - 20 times in a night" .... Really??.. Really? Do you really think that's gonna work, Has it worked ?

I suggest you try charming her, and it doesn't have to be some sappy bullshit, this is after all a one night stand/hookup you don't need to convince her your husband material. You do have to convince her your nice, respectful and safe. Her most successful hook-ups have started out with respectful naughty talk, offer up a massage, one guy offered to take her to the hot springs for an overnight get away and although I thought it a very smooth gesture, it was a bit much for a first meeting. 

3. If you get rejected, bow out gracefully, don't beg for a chance it just makes it worse. She very respectfully told one guy "I'm sorry but your a bit older than I'm looking for" (she has an age range in her ads) his reply was "but I make up for it in enthusiasm" the next one sealed his fate "I'll bet you that if I can't do you between 8-10 during the night I'll give you 500.00" 

She replied with something along the lines of "honestly I'm not interested, that's not impressive at all  and why would any woman want to hear that" 

Of course he was done "ok fatso see how many young guys fuck you" and then something about how her pic was gross, she was beautiful and sexy enough for you to be able to do her 8-10 times in one night only moments ago. If she has an age range or other criteria that you don't meet respect that, you can still try but don't be a dick when she says no thanks.

4. Make an effort with your first contact, I know my wife will give most well worded requests a look if there's a face pic and she's slightly attracted to you she will reply, but don't just send a hey sexy I like your pics, (unless your panty dropping handsome) then she'll melt at your feet. My favorites are the misguided "wow you have huge tits, can I see more pics" (are we trolling for fap material? Or are we trying to hook up) cause she's legit offering the real thing play your cards right and you might get to touch her huge tits. 

5. When your chatting before actually meeting don't be dull! Hold a conversation, reply promptly when she texts you, remember she doesn't need you, there are dozens of emails pouring in every hour, she's looking for someone to fill a void or provide a thrill it doesn't have to be you it can be the next guy very easily, I'm sure it's no secret as soon as a woman posts an ad like what my wife posts, theres no shortage of men to choose from. Which in turn means she can be choosy she can be very choosy, for one she's married, she's got a man, she doesn't do this because I'm lacking as her husband, she does this for the thrill, she does this to fill the void when I'm not home. 

6. A continuation from the last tip, remember she has a husband, you are not there to replace him, your not there to rescue her from some terrible marriage, this should not be a competition between you and her husband. One real quick way to end a "date" on a bad note would be to bad mouth her hubby.  You should be greatful that her husband is letting you have her for a few hours. What many don't realize is that couples that live this type of lifestyle are typically much closer than you'd expect. Our communication is a top priority in our marriage, I read almost every message, every email, she tells me about every conversation, and every experience, I share her with you and she shares the experience with me, and then we have the most amazing sex while we reconnect with each other. It takes a very secure individual to be married to a HotWife, she gets the best of both workds she has a man who loves her unconditionally, provides for her and is a true partner in life he is there through the good the bad and the ugly, all while she can go out and have sex with as many men as she wants, as often as she wants, unless your prepared to fill those shoes, just enjoy her company and do what you came to do. 

The key words here to successfully land a date with a HotWife are to be respectful, kind, somewhat charming and have some tact. NSA relationships don't get much easier than this, 

Any thoughts or additional tips I could add to this list? Put them in the comments below. 

Our First Meeting!

She flew cross country to see me, our first meeting! I was able to rearrange my work schedule so I could be sure to get to the airport to pick her up. A little background first, I'm an FA (fat admirer) I like Big women, and on some level always have, that's actually how we met. I had finally started to admit to myself that I prefer fat women, I was able to explore and learn through the internet, while surfing around and exploring all the wonderful women of size online I met her, she was much smaller than she is now, in fact she was much smaller then than when we actually met. Anyway she was there as I started to accept my preference (it sounds so horrible to say I had to accept it, but society has such a negative view on weight and size, as a young man growing up, society will have you believe that being attracted to a 300+ pound body is weird and wrong, I can only imagine how terrible it must feel to be the 300+ pound person that society looks down on) anyway I started to embrace this, I stopped caring if I was weird and I started to admire and appreciate all the wonderful shapes and sizes of women, I honestly believe that this negativity toward weight is more of a social construct. But why, the majority of people are overweight, why not make that be the ideal? Probably because the small thin "hot" women are rare so let's make that what everyone strives to be. My wife is 300-330 (she fluctuates;-)), pounds of the sexiest most beautiful woman I have ever laid eyes on, I could go into detail but seeing as I'm probably the only FA here I'll spare you the HOT details.

Shes on her way here to see me! the woman i have spent many nights fantasizing over, the woman who i had dreamed of, but had convinced myself i would never have. like i have said in earlier posts she was my dream girl, my Pam Anderson, My Cheryl Tiegs, I was so nervous my heart was racing, We had gotten to know each other quite well, we talked almost everyday, and now we'r about to meet!

I saw her coming down the escalator before she saw me in fact she looked over me passed me and around me, and i was wearing a pretty noticeable jacket how she was able to miss me i have no idea lol, she was more beautiful than any picture i had ever seen more amazing than any image on my computer screen, it was that awkward/not awkward moment we were meeting for the first time but knew each other so well already, we hugged and it was electric, she was so soft in my arms, her hair smelled amazing. and she was so much more than i ever expected! i told her to wait and i would bring my truck around. i found out later she was hoping and praying i was really coming back, she expected me to jump in my truck and speed away. Her ex had done a serious number on her self esteem sadly and iv spent the last 8 years trying to help her believe she is miles above where she thins she is. i pull up to the curb jump out, grab her bag and open her door, back in the truck i cant take my eyes off of her, I'm awestruck. this is a little hard to explain especially to a non FA but ill try. She had presence, she was substantial, she took up space in the most amazing way. this is not some kind politically correct way to say, OMG SHESSOFAT!, this moment, this observance isn't just about how big she is, it isn't about her weight, or her body, its about the woman i have longed to touch, being there next to me larger than life both figuratively and literally. I have never been able to explain this feeling, this emotion accurately even to her i really think its something only an FA can really understand. or maybe anyone with some type of obsessive attraction might be able to make sense of it. She was There in my Truck! Sitting right next to me! My hand was on her thigh!! I could smell her, Touch her, Hear her, and soon i would taste her!

We stopped to get coffee, and then headed East to the Coast, she wanted to see the Atlantic Ocean. we walked out onto the beach hand in hand she took in the view then turned to me i pulled her close and we kissed! She stopped and said "you can Touch it, i know you want to" (she was referring to her belly) my hand snaked up under her shirt and down into her pants feeling the Round warm softness of her sexy tummy (there are so many sexy features to a women's body and being an admirer of the larger women it doesn't get any better than a sexy tummy) we stood there making out on the beach in the cold march wind, when we had set up this meeting we both agreed we would behave, neither of us were officially divorced yet and we didn't want to rush into something and complicate an already complicated relationship. well... That went straight out the window standing there on the sand locked in an embrace kissing passionately, my hand exploring her soft curves, we both agreed at that exact moment we needed a hotel room. after a little while longer on the beach we jumped back in the truck in search of a hotel. as we drove i noticed her looking out the window,  she had never really seen snow, at least not like we get here and it had been a particularly white winter, she also commented how none of the houses had fences separating the yards and how far apart they were from each other.

Finally at a hotel and in our room i stepped into the bathroom after her to freshen up a bit, my mind racing, do i just starting pawing at her, should i just rip her clothes off, should i rip mine off, maybe she wants to rip mine off, do i play it cool and just kiss her a bit more? when i stepped out of the bathroom there she was completely naked sitting on the bed, and that answered that question, ripping my own clothes off i climbed up onto the bed and laid with her, kissing, touching, licking, not one inch of flesh was left unexplored. In my opinion our first meeting was a mindblowing success! the rest of this week consisted of me finding excuses to get back up to see her at the friends house she was staying at, i cleared my work schedule a few times, i went awol once or twice, we had our first "Date" at Olive Garden. Saying good bye and sending her home was the worst, we didn't know where wed end up from here but i knew for a fact she owned my heart the moment she stepped off that escalator at the airport. I just recently traveled through that airport again and it was an incredible walk down memory lane although they have  since renovated the bench where we took our first pic together is still there!!