Seducing an Old friend

Things have been progressing Much slower this time around, which i suppose is a good thing, past experiences have taught us that things can become overwhelming very easily.
She's met a few new guys, Slept with two so far, one did not work out and she will not be seeing him again, long story short he lied about his relationship status, his "ex" But not really, got suspicious and called my wife's phone wondering what was going on. My wife stance has always been honesty if your married and cheating its fine with her as long as she knows, she likes to be prepared for the potential suspicious wife/girlfriend. the second is promising they had a little lunch date to get to know each other then met once after that very briefly. And i believe they are meeting again with in the next few days.

The real excitement came a few nights ago, She has this Friend who she had asked if she could do him, after some talking about potential issues (him being a friend before hand at all) I agreed. a few months ago she had told him she wanted to suck him off, he was interested but wary being he knows me and nothing about our arrangement. She never did get the opportunity, the other night he stopped by the house to pick something up, (as usual I'm out of town). She had told him "You owe me a kiss for being an ass the other day" (there had been a misunderstanding between the 3 of us about meeting for drinks when i was in town) he leaned down and pecked her on the lips, "No, No , No that won't do" So he leaned down and really kissed her. They went to sit on the couch and she reaches over and starts stroking his cock through his pants, he laughs nervously and she says "Dude you owe me" She unbuttoned her shirt and got down between his legs, she started blowing on his cock through his pants until he unbuttoned them, She licked and sucked and teased for awhile, then handed him her phone took off her pants sat down and threw her legs across his lap, he fingered her for a bit then she said "Now you need to fuck me" he laughed nervously again, she told him i knew about it and that he had to take a few photos for me and fuck her. so he nervously took down his pants and crawled between her legs and Fucked My Hotwife! This was also her first Bareback which turns out to be way hotter than i expected. She was so hot after this wishing i was there to reclaim her. but i couldn't be there, she has another FB thats been dying to get at her lately and i told her to go ahead and set something up, She was gonna get fucked twice by two different guys under 2 hours, But i fucked up! i started feeling a little jealous about how she had seduced her friend, i tried to tell her how i was feeling but i did a lousy job of conveying those feelings, the whole thing was very hot but i got up in my own head and... i fucked up. it didn't turn into a fight but it took an emotional turn and she never did go to meet guy number two. on the bright side i feel like the emotional conversation was very beneficial to me any way. everything happens for a reason and that conversation needed to happen.

HOTWIFE 2.0

Iv said before, This Hotwife lifestyle is constantly changing and evolving. Originally we were both closely involved in choosing her dates, we ... actually, I had a list of rules and lines i didn't want crossed. Looking back it was most likely a strange level of denial, i didnt want to admit how much this was exciting me, i was afraid that by giving her too much freedom she'd end up replacing me, And i was ashamed to admit what i really wanted. so by setting these rules i had a level of control over how far anything went and i wouldn't have to show all my cards. I want her to be my Little Slut, i want her to Crave sex, to need sex, i would love to see her become a Nymphomaniac with little to no Restraint.

I may Be her Daddy, But i let my little slut run free for the most part, She is free to do whomever, whenever she wants as long as she tells me what she's up to. Just yesterday she was teasing one of her Boys through Chat and had gotten herself all worked up. She took video of herself taking care of it and asked if she should send it to some of her other boys. this usually creates a feeding frenzy of chat messages, What i didn't realize was she had sent it to one of our friends, She likes to tease him while we'r out for drinks and watch him squirm uncomfortably. I had an idea that she was interested in him on a sexual level but he was always so proper with her (he doesn't ... Didn't know about our Lifestyle)  That i assumed she probably would never pursue him. well the video was well received I'm sure his head was spinning and they plan on hooking up soon. 2 things really excited me about this particular exchange, 1st i know she was probably very hesitant and worried about my reaction seeing as he's a mutual friend, i am extremely impressed that she took the chance and let her slutty side show, i am also very glad that she's understanding my wishes and position so well, i know these types of requests are hard to accept and sometimes sound too good to be true, and most often we are hesitant to believe the validity of the request, so it really fills me with joy knowing she believes and trusts me enough to take me for my word. and 2nd she went for the friend, i can only imagine what her next brazen slutty move might be, any more friends in the list, what will she do to surprise me Next?

She is taking to being a Hotwife very well and seems to be enjoying herself immensely, Since we'v started back up she's only been able to sleep with one of the men from our previous go around she has however met 3 others one of which scored a hand job and a couple kisses in the parking lot. and one whom although they haven't fucked will probably end up being a regular boy toy. he's already proving to be a bit of a sub and i think she likes dominating him.

well until next time
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Been awhile!

Sorry for the apsence, we were able to spend the last month+ together. And you would assume that would have provided plenty of material for updates but it was a very vanilla month. Just us as a family doing family things, there was really no oppurtunity to seek out other partners, nor did there seem to be a desire too. We just enjoyed each other. We were a couple to the truest sense of the word. 

Looking back I don't feel we missed any oppurtunity, like we should have done this or that, I loved just being together. But now... Now that she's gone, now that's she's 3000 miles away I miss everything, I miss having her close, I miss waking up next to her, I miss going out and just being us, but I'm also now missing her flirty playfulness, I miss the rush of jealousy, I miss seeing her flirt and have fun. Am I really saying this? Do I really miss it? What's has she turned me into, I really am the Hubby of a HotWife! While she was here I had no desire to share her, she was mine and I just kept her all for myself, why now that she's home I am excited for her to date again, there was a term she found that described this let me see if I can find it... "Compersion" (A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship.) It's one of those things that is really mind blowing to me, iv said it before but this isn't me I'm usually very jealous so the fact that I'm 1) ok with this and 2) actually missing it and wanting her to find another partner to play with. Hubby of a HotWife to the core! 

Our first 3 way

She has entertained a number of fantasies for me, and up until recently she has been very tight lipped about any of hers. Finally got her to open up and spill it, one is to have two guys at the same time, so after a failed attempt or two of getting the second man into the equation it finally happened last night. It was with "John" the same guy from her first date, that have since met one other time. I had actually met him once before, over a couple beers although that first meeting was a bit awkward it wasnt bad just awkward, i suppose meeting new people is often sometimes awkward, add to this equation that he had already slept with her twice and that can make for a mildly awkward situation. This meeting went much smoother, i had been in touch with him through text about a month ago, letting him know I really wanted to let her have this fantasy and also assuring him i was 100% ok with it. Both John and My wife had done something like this in the past, this was a total first for me but whats funny is they were both far more nervous than i was. i think my wife was mostly concerned for me, she was afraid i wouldnt enjoy it, or was afraid it would end up being too much, iv mentioned a few times in previous posts that im usually the jealous type. Honestly though as iv learned since embarking on this adventure with my wife, 1- communication is key, and 2- when im on board and i know whats about to happen i can keep everything in check. This night was about her and her fantasy, i asked her not to worry about me and to please not get too wrapped up in her head about her concerns for me, i needed her to enjoy this, i needed her to be able to let go and enjoy herself. 

We met john in the bar of the hotel, he had already ordered a beer and a burger,  he stood to greet us she grabbed him for a kiss and he awkwardly kissed back like a brother kissing his sister im sure because i was there (i know they have kissed, i know they have had sex, but for him the act of kissing her in front of me was strange i guess,  I dont know if it was because i had mentally prepared for this but i was shockingly ok with it, i also took his hesitance with the kiss as a sign of respect he knows this is all a first for me and hes being careful not to overstep any bounds.) she sat next to him and i  beside her She order a shot of Patron and a Malibu and coke, I ordered a Jack Daniels double on the rocks, while we sat and talked, she reached up and held his hand, her other hand on my thigh rubbing and squeezing, she was enjoying having both of her lovers on either side of her. after a couple more drinks he headed out for a smoke, She went out to talk to him she could tell he was nervous and wanted to assure him everything was cool. i sat at the bar finishing my drink, i could see them outside the main lobby doors talking, her arms around his waist he holding her close they talked and laughed (this scene would normally cause jealousy) as i watched them together all i could do was smile. this arrangement has forced us to communicate far more honestly than we ever had, I am far more secure in our relationship than i ever had been before. as they came back into the lobby i met them just outside the entrance to the bar, and we headed for the elevator. 

How do you start somethig like this? im the new guy in this situation they both have past experiences, she headed off to the bathroom to "freshen Up", john and i talked a bit waiting (in hindsight it probably would have been a good idea to talk about what was about to happen, maybe get a gameplan together, maybe reasuure him im good with this). She comes out of the bathroom Sans pants, Ice Broken!! she comes over to me we embrace and kiss, deep pasionate kisses my hands begin wandering all over her magnificant body, John comes up behind her kissing the back of her neck hands running down her back along her hips,  he slips down to his knees kissing her beautiful round ass, as we continue to make out, from this point on i can only tell you what i was doing and what i was able to catch when i looked up from my duties, yes duties there was an amazing beautiful woman who needed as much attention from each one of her lovers as possible, this entire night was about her, her pleasure, her fantasy, her desires. John and I started with her breasts each one of us sucking, kissing and nibbling. my hand ventured down between her legs, already incredibly wet, i can only imagine what the anticipation of this moment must have been like for her. Her loving devoted Husband and her knew found Boytoy both naked, both servicing her. i kissed a gentle trail across her belly finding my way to her sweet pussy, one of my favorite ways to pleasure her licking and nibbling gently teasing her clit, while john worships her amazing breasts. she cums fairly soon i slip a couple fingers ito her reaching for her g-spot, she takes john into her mouth, playing with his balls as i lick her clit and rub her g-spot, she cums again squirting this time. taking things to extremes i slowly work the rest of my hand into her, she enjoys being filled and although it can cause her to be sore for a day or two it always makes for some intense orgasms, and tonight is the night i want her to experience the most intense orgasms shes ever had. Johns Cock in her Mouth and my fist in her pussy my free hand rubbing her clit, johns hands squeezing and playing with her big tits, she starts riding my fist, Moaning louder and louder she cums again, i cant resist any longer and just as this orgasm subsides i enter her, Making love to my wife while she kisses another man is definitely something i never thought id experience, and to be honest i certainly dont hate it the look on her face the way her eyes roll back in her head i could see she was enjoying this to max, I want to let her have this again. we cum together this time! at somepoint  John had backed off and was standing nearby stroking his cock. i crawled back up the bed and made out with my wife, i think the first experience was a success, theres a few things that good have gone better, but for the most part she thouroughly enjoyed herself and i will make a point of letting her have multiple lovers again! 

Looking Within Part 1

Being the hubby of a HotWife, takes a lot of self discipline, you need to be very very secure in your marriage, you need to understand without a doubt that she Loves you, but has a sexual desire for variety, she wants and needs to experience more, (doesn't everyone have a little interest in variety, wouldn't anybody given the opportunity to experience a new lover without the fear of ruining their current relationship jump at the chance. Doesn't everyone look at others they find attractive and wonder what it would be like?

sadly every relationship hits that point where the newness is gone, she and i talked early on about doing everything in our power to keep that feeling, that spark. it's impossible, two people cant be with each other and still get the same butterflies when they first kiss, or when they first touch. She is my dream girl the love of my life! but i know when we kiss its not the same fireworks it was 8 years ago for either of us, I do remember our first meeting vividly and i will be writing a post about that in the near future. one thing couples can do to keep that spark alive is to explore new things, this hotwife and s/D lifestyle exploration, is just that something new something exciting.

I like to think I have a pretty good understanding of wants and desires, I also know I want to please her i need to please her, iv spent years trying to get her fantasies out of her, and slowly shes starting to open up, I want her happy and satisfied, but I want her love, i need her love, and I want her to be mine. can i feel like shes all mine while i share her like this? while letting her have her fantasies? I think i can but i need to be a part of it i need to be involved with choosing the potential dates, i need to know whats going on and what the plan is, this is something we can share this is a way to keep communication wide open, if you can honestly talk about this kind of thing, then you should be able to talk about anything.

When we first discussed this arrangement she offered me the same freedom, I saw very early on she was having an issue personally with the idea of me actually being with someone else, so I declined the offer, I will not sleep with anyone else. Do I want to? i admit the idea intrigues me, If she can be 100% ok with it then yes I would like to experience something like what she has experienced. But I don't have to. I'm currently very content being hers and hers alone, it's not worth it to me to ruin our marriage over this and she feels the same, if I for any reason was uncomfortable with our new arrangement it would end.

I'v been reading some other blogs www.thehappyhotwife.blogspot.com although im not sure id ever be comfortable with her being in a polyamorous relationship, i would like for things to mature to a level where i no longer need to know every detail, id like to be able to allow her ultimate freedom, the man i am right now would not be able to handle that but im growing and learning as we go, its a tricky walk along a very thin line probably more so for her than me, the way the agreement stands, I'm the one that has the most potential for getting hurt, and shes well aware of that. i do wish she would try to worry a little less about me id hate for her fears to ruin her new adventures. i am well aware of whats happening, i am well aware that theres a very thin line she walks, and I'm constantly keeping myself in check, yes its a challenge i ask my self if I'm sure I'm ok with this constantly, i get that uneasy feeling every now and then, and i'm ultimately afraid of losing her. but iv always been afraid of that. I'v always lacked self confidence, and thats my hangup,

 this lifestyle we are entering isn't about me or my hangups, its about her, and her desires, her satisfaction, her free spirit.
To Be Continued....

First Date Final thoughts

First date a success, I'm not going to give a blow by blow (bwahaha good one bro -hi fives self) account of their evening, you can read that Here, I'm going to go through my feelings about last night. So my wife met another man at a bar, they kissed, they chit chatted for a bit, then went back to his room where she blew him, them they talked some more, the she fucked him, I'm oddly cool about it. I only say oddly because of how outside my norm all of this really is.

Originally kissing was a no- no as part of our preliminary agreement when we started this, I felt it was a bit to intimate for this type of arrangement, I thought it was something that should be kept between us. But ma'am is a very passionate woman, and kissing is a big part of the sexual experience,   Iv been reading a lot of other blogs about hot wiferey and most of these wives do kiss thier dates, which got me on the path to being able to overturn this rule. Also I wanted her to be able to relax and fully enjoy the experience, if she had to keep herself in check and constantly try to remember not to kiss, that would end up being a huge distraction and a big stress point to the evening. As she and I talked about the night, as I read her account of the night and as I read the texts between her and John, I have these little moments where I start to get a little jealous, but since we have talked at length about this arrangement, and she has been very careful to remind me through out this experience, that I'm her number one and always will be, I'm able to stop myself and get a grip so to speak.

The night for me was very low key. They had shitty cell service and no wifi so only one picture came through. I spent the night just waiting to hear from her afterward, I wasn't as anxious as I expected to be, I was more excited to talk to her. It was around 4 am here when she called, she told me all about the night, while I strokes my cock, I asked some questions, the most important thing though was whether she had a good time and that this provided the release she was looking for, being away so much I can't be there as often as she needs me, this for me started out as a solution to that problem, I didn't expect it to become the hot adventure it's become. John was a perfect gentlemen, and has set the bar very high for the next few guys.

The original plan was to line up a few guys have her meet them do what she's gonna do and move on, no repeat visits, the stress and anxiety though that comes from that first meeting especially if the goal for the end of the evening is sex, makes being able to loosen up and be yourself a much bigger challenge, wev been talking and have decided we want to line up 4 or 5 guys that would eventually become steady FWB, the important part though Is that we keep a close eye on everyone involved am to be sure someone isn't getting romantically attached, with the right individuals involved this could be a great thing. She could have her own harem, no stable of cocks at the ready, she could set up 2 to 3 meetings a week have a variety of men to choose from and get her needs fulfilled.

As I reread this I realize it's not as tittilating as I intended, I think next time I need to try to write my entry as soon after I talk to her as possible, a lot of the emotion and excitement is gone at this point and trying to get deep into it proved much harder them I expected.

She may be meeting john for another romp this weekend so hopefully I'll have a better hubby account of that one.

Till next time,
Pet

First date Update

It's on, they are In the room nude and iv received my first pic, she was sucking on his balls! I admit it was hot to see, I will say the key to surviving this is communication, we have talked a lot about this over the course of the last few weeks, it has helped to prepare me for this moment, it has allowed me to find the excitement and to be able to enjoy this moment. I will update later tonight or tomorrow sometime after iv gotten the details from her.

I want to close by saying I love my wife more than words will ever say, this experience although surreal is exciting and has done wonders to bring us much closer.

The first Date

Tonight's the night of her first "date" I'm sitting at my favorite bar grabbing dinner, she's on her way to meet ... Let's call him John, the plan is to meet for a couple drinks and a bit of small talk, to see if there's any chemistry, in my opinion there has been so much anticipation from all three of us that something is definately happening, they may not go all the way only because both, Ma'am and john are nervous as all get out. But I think they will end up naked at least, it's a very surreal experience for me right now, I have in the past been insanely jealous and protective when ever she would go out to a club or bar, but right now I am oddly calm, I think it's because iv agreed to this. We have ground rules and I love her so much. I made the comment recently  that I live to serve her, I love nothing more than to give her pleasure and what better way to give her pleasure than to let her explore her sexuality to the fullest! She's worried about me and I appreciate that, I just hope she can let go enough to enjoy herself.

I never in a million years thought I would be the husband of a hot wife, technically I didn't even know what a hot wife was a couple weeks ago, but this has been fun, it's been exciting and It has brought us closer and allowed us to open a level of communication that had been lost. Now once everything goes down there's always that possibility that I realize iv made a mistake, but if that happens I will not blame ma'am or John I have agreed to try this if it doesn't work them we stop here, although I'm feeling really good and I'm very excited for her to report back later. I beginnig to think this could be the beginning of a very exciting future for us.

The Beginning

Once we agreed on the preliminary rules and limits, it was time to start finding some suitable "dates". Part of the deal we have is that I will approve all men she meets, I love her like no other and her safety and well being are my primary concern. Also the men that want a piece of my sexy wife have to agree to a few conditions. Along with the normal list of hard limits, no anal, no kissing (more on this later), must wear a condom etc etc.they will have to consent to photos and videos being taken of the act, one of my favorite things about making love to my wife is watching her cum! And just because it's not me doesn't mean I won't enjoy seeing her cum. Her pleasure is my pleasure. So where does one go to find a man that's interested in a NSA (no strings attached) fling and will consent to pics and vid? Well... That's not as hard as you'd expect !!! Lol. We set up profiles with Adult Friend Finder and Fetlife and the guys just fell in line, I was going through some of the most surreal chat sessions ever, trying to figure out if the dude was a standup guy, needed to be sure he could respect our situation and respect her, I had to know I was sending her with someone safe, and I also had to be sure he understood our rules. Some guys bailed once they heard about the pics and vid, some guys I rejected because I wasn't comfortable with them, some guys she rejected because she either wasn't comfortable or wasn't attracted. On any given day we had 5 to 7 guys in different stages of the interview process, we kept talking about different scenarios, like an after noon where 3 or 4 guys met her one after another, I had to set up a database in order to keep them straight and where they sat on the approval process, she couldn't keep them straight, she was acting like a right and proper slut flirting with up to 8 guys at a time through different chat services, I was starting to feel like it was getting out of control, but she seemed to be enjoying it, so I kept my mouth shut and just kept judging and approving or rejecting men for her, at the end we had 5 cocks lines up and soaring for a date with my wife and one guy who we both liked but was a smoker, so we offered him the ultimate incentive to quit, I even offered him dinner, drinks and am evening with my wife in a hotel room if he could quit smoking for a certain period of time.

One night she came to me asking to discuss possibly changing the kissing rule, I kind of already assumed this would come up, and I was honestly open to discussing it, but i apparently did not handle the conversation as well as I should have. I just wanted her to try to convince me why it should be changed. I really wasn't looking to start trouble, but trouble I started!!  The main reason I ruled kissing off limits was because I was brought up being roughy that kissing was a very intimate thing, but in the world of hotwifery kissing is viewed very differently and I was willing to bend. Maybe I wanted her to work for it a little maybe I didn't want to just roll over and offer her the change. Maybe I didn't want to make it too easy. This conversation went so far south so quickly I regretted ever resisting at all. Lesson learned choose your battles with your HotWife very carefully.  As iv said before I'm the pet she is the ma'am who the hell did I think I was trying to make her work for anything, i definitely need to learn my roll better, this discussion led to the entire agreement being put on hold, but we also quickly learned we were each escalating this into uncomfortable levels thinking the other was more into it, is filmed how hot the idea of more than one guy was, she took that and tried to impress me, I thought it's what she truly want ed and went along with it and encouraged it so she upped the ante while I called her bluff it was the most fucked up sexual poker game ever!! Luckily we recognized what was going on and was able to step back regroup and reproach this whole thing much more realistically

As I close out this post, the current tally is 5 men on deck, one in a holding pattern until he can quit smoking, I still have guys messaging wanting to know how to get in on the action. And her first date scheduled for midweek with a guy I can only describe as the perfect first. Still trying to figure out what his faults are.